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Eckhart Tolle was
filled with indescribable joy, when a sudden insight
unburdened him from his despair. He felt it resembled the
experience of enlightenment by Buddha. While Paul Ekman
suggested that negative emotions were outside human
control, processes, such as relaxation, stomach pumping,
and heightened awareness could bring a still, tranquil
mind. While stillness was a natural state, could the joy
associated with "Nirvana" be just euphoria over
a sudden release from suffering?
CHECKED INTO NIRVANA. WHERE IS JOY?
A
sudden release. Eckhart Tolle lived up to his
twenty ninth year in a state of almost continual anxiety
interspersed with periods of suicidal depression. Then he
woke up one night with a feeling of absolute dread. The
silence of the night, the vague outlines of the furniture
in the dark room, the distant noise of a passing train -
everything felt so alien, so hostile, and so utterly
meaningless that it created in him a deep loathing of the
world. "I cannot live with myself any longer."
This was the thought that kept repeating itself in his
mind. Suddenly he became aware that if he could not live
with himself, there had to be two - he and the
"self" he could not live with. He was stunned
by the realization. He became enveloped by powerful
feelings.
Euphoria.
Tolle had little memory of what happened after
the powerful feelings overcame him. He woke up into a new
world. His depression vanished. For the next five months,
he lived in a state of uninterrupted bliss. While it
diminished somewhat in intensity, for another two years,
he sat on park benches in a state of the most intense
joy. He felt that what he experienced was a form of
enlightenment, of union with the eternal, somewhat
similar to the experiences of Buddha. He quoted Buddha's
definition of enlightenment as "the end of
suffering". Tolle became a respected teacher, with
dedicated followers in Europe, North America and India.
His book, The Power of Now, was on the New York Times
best seller list.
Emotions.
Both Tolle and Buddha reportedly experienced a
sudden release from the intense pain of powerful negative
emotions. Their joy was understandable. Across history,
there were many stories of the intense rapture of sages,
associated with a sudden release from the emotions of
fear, dread, guilt or anger. In most cases, these were
sudden happenings, when such emotions just dropped away
and the person felt an intense sense of freedom. But,
actually, getting rid of negative emotions could be very
practical and down to earth. The mind perceives,
recognizes events and then interprets those events as
emotions. Emotions are just a set of nerve impulses,
which fire when you recognize an event.
Automatic
trigger. Paul Eckman, the world famous emotions
scientist said that the evaluation that turned on an
emotion happened so quickly that people were not aware it
was occurring. "We become aware a quarter, or half
second after the emotion begins. I do not choose to have
an emotion, to become afraid, or to become angry. I am
suddenly angry. I can usually figure out later what
someone did that caused the emotion." So you have no
control over the emotions that are triggered when you
recognize an event. But, there were things you could do
to prevent a surge of those emotions.
Small
steps. Begin with the small turmoil. Traffic
snarls, minor discourtesies. They trigger bad feelings.
Just laughter could help by relaxing you. But, most
people find that difficult. Instead, you could do
something similar - pump your stomach repeatedly
expel air from the pelvic area. That disperses the excess
adrenalin into the system and carries away the negative
emotion. Ten minutes later, you may not even remember
what it was that upset you. That works for most minor
disturbances.
Contingency
plans. In more critical situations, emotions are
the plans of primitive nature for action. Anger incites
you to attack. Guilt persuades you to submit. And fear
suggests you run away. But, if you have a plan of action,
animal nature sits back. Negative emotions recede. There
are only three things you can do when something bad
happens. Do something about it. Prevent it from happening
again. Or, if you can't do anything, accept it as
inevitable. So, plan, wait for time to bring you a plan,
or decide to live with it. Over the years, if you are the
type who plans, you will have plans to deal with most
difficulties in life. So, over decades, the loud negative
emotions subside.
Conquer
moods. That leaves you with those moods, which
drive you crazy. You don't know why, but you feel the
world is about to end. Actually, those are internal
drives, which switch on, mostly without your permission.
Some stray event, which you may even have forgotten.
Getting rid of moods takes a little more practice.
Relaxation exercises help. Better to develop a familiar
awareness of the mood. Oh, oh, here I am, in the same
frame of mind again! An intense outside awareness works
to kill it. Easier if you can spot the physical symptoms
of the mood. A familiar strain here, a tension there.
Identify it and the mood vanishes. It can be done.
Only
stillness is natural. So, suddenly, one day, you
find you have reached Nirvana. Bad emotions rarely bother
you. Those repetitive thoughts that circled around have
stopped. You are able to prevent stray thoughts from
coming in. You can focus your mind for long periods on a
single problem, or even on just silence. The burdens of
life don't bother you. You have decided to do your best
right now. Hell with the rest. You have reached. The
funny thing is, there is no special joy when you get
there. Only an empty silence. Could all those who were
euphoric about a sudden release from pain, have kept up
their joy over the years? Tolle got off the park bench
after three years. Euphoria, yes. But, permanent joy
doesn't sound real.
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